An attractive young woman approaches you in a bar. Before you can figure out how it became your lucky night, you hear this: “Do you want to buy me a glass or two?”
Or you’re speaking with a rare beauty, or possibly dancing, and she offers you the old, “Have you been going to get me a glass or two?”
So how will you handle this case? Buy her a glass or two or not? And what does one say in this regard?
If you’ve existed the block a little, you’ve probably come to realize that it’s usually not recommended to answer these drink requests in a confident fashion. For most reasons…
1.) Club drinks usually are very expensive and will drain your wallet fast.
2.) She may possibly not be attracted for your requirements at all and simply be using you to finance her night out.
3.) She may already be out with some guy, and once she gets her drink, she returns to him and completely ignores you (it happens).
4.) Above all, buying her a glass or two runs the risk of framing your interaction together where you’re seeking her approval! You are the pursuer and she is the prize that must definitely be won.
Now, it’s possible that she really IS into you, and that is just her way to access know you better 外送茶. If that is the case it’s doubtful that she even cares concerning the drink. Remember, I said possible, not probable. Or there could be some chemistry going on as possible feel and she says it.
Can it be “safer to be safe than sorry” or to “throw caution to the wind” and buy her the drink anyway?
That begs the question: so how exactly does one protect themselves in this case without looking stingy, rude, or simply odd? And so how exactly does one refuse the request without running her off?
The key here is to show the tables, and not ensure it is about buying a glass or two to select her up, but about her requesting a glass or two because she wants to select YOU up!
This is a subtle difference. In one single scenario, you’re putting yourself at a disadvantage. In the other, you’re which makes it so she needs to prove for your requirements she’s worth your time and money.
So let’s say the woman asks you “Do you want to buy me a glass or two?” Try smiling, tilting your mind and saying, “I dunno. Last time Used to do a woman tried to take advantage of me later.”
That is important because you’re not saying “Yes” or “No.” You’re steering the interaction in an alternative direction, one where you stand in control.
Your ex will either laugh, look at you funny, or ask you to tell the story. If she asks for a story, give her a good one. If not, say. “Think it’ll work again this time around?”
It’s funny how often this creates a good situation for you. Many, many women say yes, and will often pull a couch to talk to you about it. If she says no, then tell her you appreciate her honesty, turnaround and leave. Oddly enough, women like that have a tendency to seek you out later in the evening.